I really don’t know how it happened but I might have accidently tripped and fell into one of my most powerful player moves that has caused an epic shift in my game. The last three times I’ve done it has resulted in two notches. But the point is I pass on my knowledge to you the faithful like the secret code to get through that desert part in Legend of Zelda when you didn’t get the flute yet or was it a cemetery? It works because it keeps the interaction feeling loose instead of scripted.

What I do is open a girl well and move right on into conversation and building attraction. I tell jokes, I get deep, find out where she likes to hangout what she does, kind of music she listens to, where she went to school, I keep talking as long as possible without introducing myself. I try to make it that our attraction was so strong we got wrapped up in our own world and forgot all about little things like a formal introduction.

And it’s that good awkward tension when she realizes I just spent 10 minutes telling my life story to a complete stranger and I don’t even know his name. When you think about it, saying an opener then “formerly” introducing yourself only leaves a down hill anti climatic next step in the conversation. This will end with a higher chance of her saying nice meeting you whatever your name is see you around. By holding back the label until the end, you give the moment a little payoff.

But if you start talking to her like you guys already go way back like spinal cords and backseats and at the end of the conversation you exchange names like a reward, the number close or notch is easier. The main point is talk to her like you already know her better yet talk to her like you’ve already slept with her. Remain a mystery man to the fullest. That kind of tone makes the conversation feel older than it is and more natural than it has any right to be.